Solitude vs. Social Media

Solitude = alone with your thoughts.

Social media = alone with everyone else’s thoughts.

In the former, you arrive at conclusions based on what you are thinking.

In the latter, you arrive at conclusions based on what everyone else is thinking.

Solitude shapes your opinion by forcing you to spend quality time inside your own head.

Social media shapes your opinion by baking it inside an echo chamber created by algorithms.

That’s not to say there isn’t value in what other people say.

Quite the opposite. Challenging your own perspective is important for the global discussion.

But, what value is there in being reactive?

An approach like this doesn’t take all perspectives into account, nor does it take the time to get to the heart of the issue.

And is it worth spending so much time analyzing what someone else says, anyway?

Maybe. If what they say affects your life.

But, most things people say don’t.

So, why do you listen to them?

Or me?

Learn Through Action

Social Media Detox Project: Day 8

I had a bit of a “down” day today. Nothing bad happened; it was just a Monday, and a reminder that I’m still in my day job, and probably will be for at least another year. During this time, I’m paying off student loan debt and saving.

I have goals, at least, but I feel a little impatient sometimes. I’m ready to dive headfirst into full-time writing, music and content creation NOW. I don’t want to wait.

But, tough shit, right?

I need to make wise decisions. Once I take the leap, it will be an enormous challenge to make a living, so I need to be in a good financial position in order to have that buffer.

I still don’t know what I’m doing with this daily blog, if I’m actually reaching anyone, if the likes I get are just from bots.

But that’s okay. This daily blogging is mostly just for me to prove to myself that I can commit to a project for a month straight.

And I like to think I’m learning.

Just gotta keep taking little actions each day.

What I Did

Novel writing


Research for freelance writing blog

Watched game development stream for cousin’s video game

Something I read

“There is only one way to learn…through action.” -The Alchemist

Something I learned

That not every day can feel like a winner, but it’s still all part of the process.

Twitter is an Old Cat Lady

Social Media Detox Project: Day Two

Twitter is like an old lady who leaves milk out on her porch.

The milk she leaves is Likes, Replies, and Re-Tweets.

Twitter users are like cats who come to the old lady’s porch every day looking for milk. Some meow or purr in exchange for milk, some just kind of hang around and watch other cats meow and purr. Many start to live at the old lady’s house and overindulge in milk.

And the old lady will leave out all sorts of stuff. Some days, there might be milk, others none at all. And some days, it may not even be milk; maybe it’s soda, junk food, rabid animals–the old lady has dementia, you see.

Those of us who choose to do a social media detox are like the cats hanging out in the neighbor’s yard, on the other side of the fence.

My experiment of only using Twitter through Buffer is like meowing every day from behind the fence. I don’t approach the porch. But I meow every day at the other cats who hang around the old lady’s house and drink her milk every day.

From behind the fence, I can’t tell if the cats on the other side are paying attention, or if the old lady leaves out any milk or not. It doesn’t matter. Because, behind the fence, in the neighbor’s yard with other cats, I have everything I need already. I just like to meow at the old lady’s porch.

So, what happens when the old lady sees that the milk has been untouched?

She will stop leaving out milk.

But, that doesn’t matter, because we cats in the neighbor’s yard don’t need her milk. We just want to bring her cats to the yard, because we have milkshakes and are happy to share.

And if the old lady’s cats hear us meowing every day, eventually, some of them might get curious and investigate the neighbor’s yard.

And they will see that we are happy behind the fence.

Hopefully, they will join the milkshake party.

And if only one new cat joins, I will count that as a success.

What I did today

  • Write novel 90 mins
  • Budget for July
  • Exercised 30 mins
  • Worked on pitches for my freelance writing gig

Something interesting I read today

Focus is a Privilege by Roxanna Asgarian.

This reminded me of the obligation that comes with such focus. If we have the time and resources to focus on something that matters to us, we should absolutely spend more time doing that, because not everyone has it so easy. Who knows? Maybe our focus could spawn a project that would help those with greater needs.

Something interesting I learned today

That everyone needs a good milkshake.

Social Media Detox Project: Day One

Here we are! Day One of my Twitter detox. If you haven’t already, you can check out what this project is about here.

These posts are going to highlight the things that I spend my time doing now that I am not using any social media apps except for Buffer.

I am still figuring out the structure of these posts but I think each post will include something similar to the structure below.

What Did I Do Today

  • Worked on novel for 90 mins
  • Launched the QA page for SMDProject July
  • Exercised
  • Scheduled a few tweets for Buffer
  • Watched a development stream for my cousin’s forthcoming video game

Something Interesting I Read Today

I’ve been reading The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho and am loving it. This book could not have come at a better time in my life, which is also interesting because the book itself contains the theme of the universe working in your favor.

The book contains many simple truths written in a beautiful way. Here is one that I think is relevant to the theme of the month:

…people become fascinated with pictures and words and wind up forgetting the Language of the World.”

And here’s another just for fun:

Whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, it’s because that desire originated in the soul of the universe.”

Something(s) Interesting I Learned Today

  • That I am 100% ready for this thing to fail and to reach no one at all. And that’s okay.
  • I am working to bring myself out of the mindset that this is all just to gain an audience. I have decided to commit to the month of July to finish this project whether or not anyone reads anything I have to say. I have quit too many creative projects in my lifetime, so now its time to start one with a defined end point and see it through to completion.
  • I want to do this to remind myself that I have 100% control over my projects themselves, even if I have zero control over how they are received.
  • I also want to use this opportunity to practice deep focus. My mind tends to wander quite frequently, so I want to work it like a muscle and harness that focus.

You Can Join Too!

Feel free to get in touch if you want to share in this MAGICAL experience.

Just imagine: a life free from the bonds of social media…

Just imagine………………………………………………………………………………….